Dear hubby to be,
I am really passionate about seeing marriages work and as a result, I have been harboring several thoughts of marriage and dating since I was young. I will share my thoughts and dreams soon.
As I watch modern Christian marriages flourish, I am reminded of the times I was growing up in the village and how I loathed marriage. My definition of marriage would be characterized by no love or affection, where all duties were fully left to the wife, where battering and separation were common phenomena, women being encouraged to save or say hide some money ‘just in case’ among others. I never envisioned marriage as a place of companionship, enjoyment, fellowship, protection, trust, affection…where the foundation is love.
Again, baby-sitting has never been an easy task. In fact, a couple friends of mine call it ‘baby-standing’. It entails being dirtied by the kids, understanding even the most hard to understand utterances and cases (and as Christians, bringing them up in the Lord’s ways entails not lying to them but explaining, I have learnt), being patient with them even when you feel you want to beat them up, for that would mean battering them after every few minutes, fixing your eyes on them especially while with crowds, among others.
Christianity and modernity well combined seems to work. It is astounding how working fathers chose to baby sit the kids even as the mothers work on something else. It was unthinkable for me that a man would even baby sit as he took his meal. And even now as I watch couples in Ezra conference divide labor (baby-sitting) among themselves to ensure they both attend seminars, I am amazed. As I spend time with the couples, I am for some reason beginning to get interested in parenting and children, yet I am sure it hasn’t been like this always. It must be in preparation to birth my own, although I do not expect one until 2020, earliest.
As I write this, I hope that the Lord will lead you to love me as the Lord loved the church and gave up everything for it. I look forward to great days with you, in a marriage as God intended. I pray that you will support me in bringing up the kids and in the house chores… and in everything else your hands finds to do. But above all, I trust God for grace to submit to you, as am enabled. Praying for you!
One day your “then hubby” will read this & smile and matter something to God. Great piece Agnes!
Let him who has an ear hear this. May the Lord prepare him too for the godly responsibilities.
#manshallnotlivealone
wow amen that is my prayer too may God provide him as you pray
spot on!! The marriage we all desire, may God answer the prayers. amen.
good one dear
Wonderful piece Aggie. I’m sure the Lord has heard your prayer.
Amen!
Wow
This is surely great. Its my prayer too
Great ideas here,may God prepare both of you.
Wow wow nice piece
Thanks Agnes for this wonderful piece. Am sure when he arrives and get to read this, he will be happy indeed. shalom
Aaaaammeeennn!
Wow, a masterpiece I can say..
God is a faithful God, ‘as far as you can see u will posses’.
Good piece Miss Njeru
Awesome. I did not like marriage as much too. Glad You shared this
You’re welcome gal. May the Lord keep granting us these beautiful convictions
Aggie, dream come true, 2020 motherhood kicked in. Wishing you God’s love and joy in your marriage.