7:00 pm. Home from work. The house is clean and organized. Child is well fed, and dinner preparations have been done (as is the practice; prepare, I cook). Clothes were washed and folded. The washroom was scrubbed (this is a big thing in my life).The baby is listening to music with her nanny, who forgot to clean the bottom of the sink, for the second time. My mind races; what makes her forget simple instructions each time? Is it the same reason she forgot to arrange the bookshelf? Is it because of the TV, her peers, etc.? On and on my mind goes, to all the shortcomings the child of God has had in this house. At times I lash it out, at times I keep it to myself or pour it to my husband.
I Peter 5:3 ministered to me one evening; not domineering/overbearing/lording over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock. Just how overbearing am I? While I understand that this scripture has varied meaning, I knew that in part I needed to check; how unbearing of others mistakes I am. How easy is it to notice the things that are yet to be done, vs the 95% that have been done? What matters more — that the house was 101% cleaned, or that the baby is well taken care of?
Col 3:13 starts by, bear with each other and forgive one another… Can I be counted among those who bear with others weaknesses, sins, misgivings…? How often do I judge that someone has willingly sinned against me, failed me, failed to play their part, etc.?
Overbearing, like may other sin and pride, comes in many forms; thinking highly of yourself in comparison to others, spending more time thinking and discussing other peoples sin (even when not addressing them), denying rewards to those under your care, without verifying they have willingly failed, overloading work to others, failing to forgive this friend (imagining we have never sinned against another so much), misusing your power as a parent over your child (topic for another day) among others.
I invite us today then, as managers, househelp employers, friends, et all to soul search, and ask, just how overbearing am I? To then put on the full amour of God, for only with it we are able to fight the flaming arrows of the enemy (sin) against overbearing.